Deception Tips Podcast Episode 37 – Mask The Face
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Welcome to episode 37 of the deception tips podcast. Thank you for your continued listening to this broadcast. Remember that repetition is one of the main things in learning anything and with this series you will really be able to learn exactly what everybody is really saying. You’ll know when someone is lying to you so that you’ll be able to find the truth and never be hurt by lies again.
So, as always, with anything that you are learning, listen to it over and over again. That doesn’t mean you have to listen to this episode over and over again but mark the ones that you really enjoyed. Listen to them over, share them with your friends, have them listen to them and then start discussing them.
In addition, if maybe for some reason you don’t have any friends because they’re all lying to you then get involved in some online discussion. You can jump on the Facebook page, deception tips or a guide to deception. You can find any of my social media, I’d be more than happy to engage in some discussion with you if you have any questions or conversation or anything like that. Because this is such a great topic and I really believe that if more people knew how to read others and detect deception that we would live in a much more honest and much better world.
Last time we spoke about a sign of deception in rubbing the eyes, where some people with unlikeable stimuli when they see things that they don’t like. The caveat with this is sometimes it could be not only something that they see but also something that they hear. The reaction is a hand to face gesture of blocking the eyes, so they could rub their eyes they may also blink a bunch.
We talked about that where like people may flutter their eyes or blink rapidly to shut out unlikeable stimuli. In addition, it could be in an extreme situation where they will shut their eyes and then maybe even turn away if they don’t like what they see or if they don’t like what they are hearing, so pay attention to that.
Today, we are going to talk about another sign of deception on the face. This is more of a general sign that explains where these leakage forms come from. So, in general, we have a body obviously, that means that when we lie or when someone lies or when we are looking for lies, we will be able to see different signs on someone’s face and on their body.
So, we’ve talked about a lot of different areas, we’ve also spoken about speech and we’ve also talked about breathing. So, we have speech patterns which are some things you can hear, we have breathing which is something you can see and hear then we have all of the physical signs of deception and body language that can happen on the face or on the body.
As could be reasoned, the body is larger than the face so therefore because there is more area on the body than the face, one would think that there are more signs of deception on the body than the face. Now, this is true in some instance and not in others. The face has so many tiny muscles and micro-expressions that there are a lot of different signs of body language and nonverbal communication on the face.
However, there is a caveat here as well, most people try to mask or hide their facial expressions more than their bodily expression. So, even though there could be the potential for more signs of deception on the face, there are actually more signs of deception on the body due to the fact that most people hide the expressions that come out on their face.
That is exactly what we are going to talk about today in deception tip number 37. So, here it is deception tip number 37. People often try to mask their face more than their body when they tell lies, as a result, the body will have more leakage than the face. Here it is again, deception tip 37. People often try to mask their face more than their body when they tell lies, as a result, the body will have more leakage than the face.
The body is very expressive, the face is even more expressive, obviously, as we’ve said, with all of the different muscles that go into it, all of the different micro expressions that can occur there. When it comes to the face though, a lot of people because they know that we’re supposed to maintain good eye contact, we have to look people in the eye, we need to watch their face etc. most people when they speak with other people they’re focused on the face.
They’re watching each other’s eyes, their mouths, looking at their cheeks, looking around their chin, all around the field of vision. They may be looking over their shoulder, behind them, etc. so the face is always in the field of vision. Now, that means when someone lies, they are consciously and unconsciously going to guard their face a little bit more than the rest of their body because they know that that’s what everybody is watching.
This can work to your advantage because then that means if they are focused on guarding their face, that means they are going to let their guard down on their body which means that you can watch the body to find signs of body language that will leak deception. These will be nonverbal cues that happen all across the body that can leak that deception.
Remember that the conscious and the unconscious are always fighting one another, they are at a head-to-head battle for the truth. The conscious wants to get away with the lie and serve itself, fool other people and make it so that life is good. They don’t have to have any conflict and try to get away with the lies so that they can move on, whereas the unconscious is super truthful and always wants the truth to come out.
Therefore, whenever the conscience is telling a lie, the unconscious is going to do unconscious things to get the truth out which means leak body language, leak nonverbal communication. It’s going to be like those unconscious gestures. If you train yourself to pick up on those gestures, which you have been doing because now we are at 37.
Which means, for the past 37 weeks you have been listening to the deception tips podcast, and you are learning more about detecting deception and how to find these little unconscious cues. We are going to talk a lot more about how people will mask the face more than the body and different signs and things like that coming up right after this.
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Once again, you’re listening to the deception tips podcast, my name is Spencer Coffman. This is episode 37, where we are talking all about how liars will attempt to mask the face more than the body. Remember, I encourage you to listen to this over and over again so that you can really get the most out of it because it’s through repeated use and repeated repetition and over stimulation that you will really remember exactly what’s going on.
So, share it with your friends, talk about it with them, engage in some online discussion etc. Now, when people lie, they like to mask their face more than their body because they know other people are going to be watching the face. Therefore, the body is going to have more signs of leakage. So, use this to your advantage and pay attention to not only their face but also their entire body.
This doesn’t mean that because they’re going to be masking their face, you should not even worry about the face and you should look at everything else. No, because there are a lot of little muscles in micro expressions that occur on the face, which means there is a ton of potential for you to recognize deception on their face. Even though they are attempting to conceal their face more than their body, it means that they will still have leakage on their face.
They cannot help it, you cannot block all leakage, the unconscious is constantly trying to show the truth. That means if there is a lie going on there will always be more than one sign. Some of them will be on the face, others will be on the body, no matter what someone does they cannot block out everything.
So, pay attention to the entire body including the face, watch for all of these signs that we’ve gone over. We’ve gone over 37 as of today, we’ve got a lot more coming up, continue listening, also check out the books and everything to get even more information.
Now, the body is bigger than the face in terms of area, space. I don’t even need to prove this point just look at a human being you will see that the face is a circle. The body is huge. So, in comparison, there is more to work with on the body. You can watch their hands, arms, legs, neck, all kinds of things. Where their feet are going, and you can see exactly what they’re saying by paying attention to all of these signs.
Therefore, when you are speaking with someone you need to put yourself in positions so that you can monitor their entire body. This means if you are talking to somebody at a table or a desk and you have them sitting and you’re sitting and you guys are each on one side of the desk, you can only see from let’s say their torso or chest up.
That means in proportion, you’re only seeing about a third of their body. Well, now you may only have a third of the chance to detect deception because a lot of the leakage could be happening on the legs. Now you say well the unconscious is truthful, so it’s going to put leakage all over the body. Yes, but the conscious is deceptive and it’s going to fight with the unconscious.
Now, this is going to be a little weird here, but the conscious and the unconscious, they’re really not two separate entities, they’re really the same. It’s the same mind but for ease of explanation, it’s two separate entities right now. The conscious and the unconscious they’re fighting, they want to compromise they want to get along.
So, the conscious allows the unconscious to have this leakage because it knows, hey, no one really knows how to read people and how to detect deception so I can let the unconscious have its way. Let out a few signs of deception, no big deal because no one’s going to see it, I’m still going to get away with the lie.
However, if there is someone sitting behind a table, the conscious is going to know that. The unconscious is going to still try to leak that deception. The conscious is going to say hey, leak all of the signs you want underneath the table, leak them all on the legs. So, that way they won’t be able to see it. Why? Because we’re sitting behind a table.
So, the conscious is going to feel really good about letting the unconscious leak all the behaviors it wants behind the closed doors, nothing will be leaked from the chest up. Of course, some things may still be leaked but the point is when the conscious knows that there is a spot on the body that cannot be detected that is where the leakage is going to happen.
Therefore, any time you are interrogating someone or speaking with someone in a serious situation where you need to get to the truth, put yourself in a position where you can monitor their entire body. If it needs to be an interrogation room and you need to be sitting down, then just put two chairs across from each other with some distance. Don’t put a table in between.
Why do they need a table to lean on or to rest on? Unless you need to handcuff them to the table or something. Why is that table needed? It is not. Maybe handcuff him to the chair and bolt the chair to the floor. Whatever it takes to give yourself that advantage of seeing their entire body so that you can monitor all of the leakages that are going to happen, it is very important.
In addition, maybe it’s a more casual situation where you guys can stand and talk to one another. That would be perfect because now you add the entire shifting of weight, moving back and forth, walking around, all of those nervous behaviors that can come with standing. Remember, that there will always be more than one sign, so that means you can pay attention to all different signs.
If you think you see one thing, let it ping up your antenna and start paying attention for more. Use those strategies we talked about to revisit those conversations. If you’re talking about last week when he did x y z on Thursday and you notice that there’s a little shifting of something, weight or a shoulder shrug, then say, “alright, tell me again about last Thursday, what happened when you did x y z?” See if you see another sign.
Don’t be afraid to steer the conversation back to the certain spots where you think you’ve noticed deception. Remember, this is an art, you are not going to be calling people out on their signs of deception, “hey, you did a shoulder shrug right there, I know that that means you’re lying!” No, that doesn’t mean they’re lying, you need to look for clusters and patterns of behavior.
Therefore, steer the conversation back so that you can elicit those patterns and clusters of behaviors. They aren’t going to know what you’re doing, they’re just going to think that you have more questions on it, that you’re talking because the human conversation is nonlinear. It is a mess, it is a chaos of back-and-forth, non-linear patterns, it’s not a narrative. Therefore, when you’re jumping back and forth asking about all about things over and over again. It’s going to seem pretty casual. So, don’t be afraid to do that in order to find the truth.
Once again, I want to thank you for listening to the deception tips podcast. I hope that you’ll share it with your friends, subscribe to the feed, check out the deception tips videos, the deception tips blog, and take a look at the books I have available and as always tune in next week for a new deception tip.