Deception Tips Podcast Episode 49 – Calf Muscle

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Welcome to episode 49 of the deception tips podcast, I’m so glad you’re continuing to listen to these podcasts, we are almost to the halfway point. Again, we’re on 49 and we go to about a hundred and one, so that means we’re almost there, we’re almost halfway. This has been an excellent series for everybody, and I hope that you have learned a lot.

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Last time, we spoke of a body language behavior that we’ve touched on several times before, we haven’t touched on it specifically, but we’ve touched on the general concept. Last time, we discussed how a slight shoulder shrug means that a person doesn’t really have a lot of confidence in what he or she just said, so it’s like, yeah, I agree but I don’t agree, like whatever they’re saying they don’t fully support or believe.

Remember that when someone shrugs his or her shoulders, it usually means they don’t know, that’s the typical shoulder shrugging gesture. When do people do it? They do it when they don’t know, they shrug their shoulders as an I don’t know gesture. So, that means that if someone gives you a response and they shrug their shoulders with that response, they don’t know, it’s as simple as that.

Pay more attention to body language because it is more truthful than speech, so body language is where you want to fall back to. If they shrug their shoulders, generally, they don’t know but what happens if they only shrug one shoulder? Well, that means that whatever they’re saying, they don’t have a lot of confidence in it. It isn’t that they don’t know, it’s that they’re pretending to know but they don’t fully believe it so they’re only half shrugging let’s say.

Keep in mind that body expressions and facial expressions and all of that kind of stuff must be symmetrical. So, when someone is shrugging with half of their body or with one shoulder more than the other that means it is not symmetrical and is, therefore, some form of false or deceptive emotion.

This could mean that they don’t know what they’re saying even if they say they do or it could mean that they know what they’re saying if they say they don’t, so either way, whatever it means, it means that something’s not right, that’s what you need to know. So, when someone is speaking to you and they shrug one shoulder, you need to know right there that something’s not right about that, something is a little off, so continue your line of questioning.

Remember everything must be symmetrical, if it is very true, with the exception of contempt, that is the only asymmetrical facial expression, we talked about that back in episode 19. So, keep that in mind, shoulder shrugs are typically an, ‘I don’t know’ gesture, when you see a shoulder shrug it means that someone doesn’t really know what he or she is talking about.

If it is a slight shoulder shrug on one side of the body more than the other then it is asymmetrical and everything that we have discussed about asymmetricality, generally means deception, false emotion, or that someone does not believe what they’re saying. They do not have a lot of confidence in what they are talking about, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re lying, they just don’t fully know what they’re talking about.

Today, we’re going to talk about a different sign of deception than that, however, it is still on the body, it is a form of body language. In addition, it is also one that we have discussed a little bit here and there, we talked about it in a few different episodes. They’ve gone way back when we talked about the locked ankles in episode number 22 on how sometimes people can lock their ankles under the desk or under their chair, sometimes they tuck them back under the chair.

That was a long time ago, hopefully, you remember that, if you don’t, I encourage you to go back and check it out and get a little refresher on that. You can do it after you listen to this broadcast but go ahead and check that out. Also, two episodes ago, in episode 47,

we talked about watching the legs because we said that the legs are a very expressive form of the body or part of the body.

The reason is because most people try to mask the face and other areas that are more visible whereas the legs are a little bit more hidden. So, people don’t necessarily watch the legs or don’t necessarily try to mask the legs because they know people aren’t focusing on them, so watch those.

So, this is episode 49, here it is, deception tip 49. Some liars may cross the bottoms of their legs at the calf muscle in an X-like position as if to block off the target’s perceptions. Here it is again, some liars may cross the bottoms of their legs at the calf muscle in an X-like position as if to block the target’s perceptions.

We’ve got a lot going on this one, it’s happening with the legs, some liars are crossing their legs, that’s step one. It’s at the calf muscle, that means it’s the lower part of the legs, in an X-like position and that is more of that blocking. So, this is like arm folding of the legs, they’re blocking off perceptions. It is a defensive gesture and we talked about that when we spoke of locked ankles, how they may lock their ankles and that will be in an X-like position because if they’re locked, they’re crossed.

This is a little bit higher up, so instead of simply locking the ankles, this is a full-on leg cross at the calf muscle done to block the target’s perceptions. This could be combined with locking of the ankles, it’s a defensive gesture because they are crossing something. So, instead of crossing the arms or folding the arms like we talked about way back in episode 1, they are crossing the legs.

It isn’t a typical leg cross like the figure four position or the over the leg position like you would see in England. This is more of a bottom of the leg cross, it is a blocking perception and we are going to talk a lot more about this coming up right after this.

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Once again, here we are, we are on Deception Tip 49, thank you for your continued listening. We’re talking about crossing the legs at the calf muscle. It’s an X-like position, this is a defensiveness gesture that people do when they may be withholding something or when they feel that the target, which is the person that they are lying to or being deceptive with is starting to see through them.

They’re going to cross their legs to block that out, it’s like X, like don’t come near me I’m blocking you. They don’t want targets to spot their lies and they do whatever they can, they want to hide this leakage. Sometimes, as we’ve talked about before in different episodes way back when we talked about bouncing the legs, this was back in episode 30 how some liars when they’re very anxious, you may see one leg bouncing up and down like a car piston bing, bing, bing, bing, bing.

Then if it gets really serious, they may have both the legs going, it’ll be like a double bass,

boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, and their legs will be going like crazy. Obviously, this is a little abnormal, so someone who does this behavior may know that and they may cross their legs to prevent the other behaviors from happening. You say wait a minute, they cross their legs to prevent the other behaviors, isn’t that a conscious behavior? Yes, it is.

So, crossing their legs in an X at the bottom could be conscious and the unconscious will allow it to happen because it knows that in doing so it is also displaying a sign of unconscious leakage. So, it’s like the one up, like the physical tasks that we talked about, that was a long time ago, that was back in episode 4, how we discussed that physical tasks.

People stop when they’re telling that lie or rehearsing their story, telling their story that they rehearsed, they’ll stop that unconscious physical tasks and the unconscious allows that because it knows that it is a sign in and of itself. This is very similar, so if someone is a leg bouncer and they decide, you know what, I better cross my legs or even lock my ankles or something, that way I don’t bounce my legs, I’m getting that tension and anxiety out somewhere else.

We talked about what that is, that is a pacification gesture, they’re pacifying that anxiety or tension. It’s a double pacification, bouncing the legs is a pacification in and of itself because they are releasing that stress, tension, and anxiety, pacifying that. Then, if they lock their ankles or cross their legs at the calf muscle, they are restricting that leg bouncing from happening and pacifying that but also pacifying the root anxiety of it by crossing and locking their legs.

They may pull a little bit on it and they may express that a little bit of pushing together on their legs to release that tension there. So, remember that this is a behavior that you may see a lot, in addition, it is one that may not always indicate deception, just like all these other behaviors we talked about, this is one that can happen all the time.

First off, this is more of a comforting gesture too, so when someone crosses his or her legs, remember when we talked about an armed folding how it could just be that the person is giving themselves a hug. So, this could mean that this person, when they cross their legs down at the bottom of the calf muscles in an X, maybe they tuck them under their chair, it might be just like a hugging gesture.

They’re giving themselves a little bit of comfort and helping themselves feel a little bit more comfortable. Keep in mind though that when they tuck it under their chair, it could also be symbolic of how liars take up less space than truth-tellers. How they want to shrink so that people do not see the different signs of deception on their body. Remember liars don’t want people to see everything that’s going on, so they may shrink.

Also, if they tuck them under, it could be a variation of that step backward that we talked about. In episode 40, we talked about the taking up space, in episode 29, we talked about how liars may step backward to ward off that accusation. So, if they’re shrinking by crossing the legs and tucking them under, that could also be stepping backward or withdrawing from the situation a little bit.

Keep in mind that even though there could be so many different signs that this could encompass, it’s mainly something where they are being a little bit withholding or defensive or they just feel like they want to be comfortable. People like to take control of their own environment, so if this is a behavior that they did somewhere else where they were comfortable and now they’re in a new environment, they may do that behavior in an effort to bring that comfort to this new environment.

So, this goes with any behavior, say someone is normally somebody who taps their fingers on the desk and at home where they feel comfortable, in their bedroom, they tap their fingers a lot. Well, when they’re in school and they feel anxiety, they’ll tap their fingers to bring the feeling of that comfort from home to the classroom. This is something that can happen when any form of body language.

So, keep in mind that even deceptive signs could be that way because if someone is comfortable doing that form of body language in another area, they may bring it with them to bring that comfort. So, that’s a little side note or tip on why some people may do certain things in new environments. It’s human nature, we want to familiarize our foreign environments, so we will do something familiar to us to bring that familiarity there in an effort to make us a little bit more okay with being in that new environment.

Where were we on this? Crossing the legs can mean a number of things, can mean people are defensive, can mean they’re withholding, can mean they need some comfort. If they combine crossing those legs with tucking them back that could further mean withholding or withdrawing from the situation. It could also mean that they don’t want people to see what’s going on.

They are tucking away, they’re crouching, hiding, taking up less space because they don’t want the target to see those different signs they may be leaking. It could also mean that they are very anxious and so crossing their legs at the calf muscle in that X position or even locking the ankles with that could mean that they are trying to release the stress or tension or they’re trying to prevent the release of that stress or tension from some other behavior on their legs.

It’s like when you are about to yawn and you stifle that yawn, this could be like stifling the leg bouncing or something like that. Maybe they think that they’re moving their legs too much and they’re feeling a little bit self-conscious, so they’ll cross them at the bottom to prevent that from happening. It could mean any number of things, but the main thing is you need to watch for patterns and clusters of behavior that will go along with this.

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