Deception Tips Video 10 – Quick Answers
Hey guys! My name is Spencer Coffman. Thank you for watching the deception tips videos. They’re all about teaching you how to detect deception so that you can know whether or not someone is lying to you.
Today, we are going to talk about a cool tip that I’ve kind of hinted on in the past couple of videos. It is something where when asked a yes-or-no question, sometimes liars can give a quick response to that question, which is then followed by like a delayed explanation or they give a slower response, such as stretching out the word, and then the explanation comes. Now, this is done to get the liar to give them a little bit of time to think about their answer.
Now, by ‘think about their answer’ and by a ‘little bit of time,’ we’re not talking a lot here we’re not talking more than a couple seconds. Sometimes it’s even a fraction of a second. It is something that happens it very quick. So, here it is Deception Tip number 10: A quick answer of ‘yes’ or ‘no’ followed by a delayed explanation may suggest deception as the person might have been thinking about their response.
So, this is very important to watch out for because when you ask a yes-or-no question, a simple question with a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ response, it’s very easy. It’s cut and dry. “Did you do something?” “Didn’t you do something?” “Is your name so-and-so?” The answer is ‘yes’ or ‘no.’ It’s very, very simple. So, anytime it takes a little bit longer to answer a yes-or-no question you should automatically be suspicious especially if that answer is immediate.
So, for example, you would say, “Is your name, Spencer Coffman?” If you’re asking me and then I would say, “Yes. But this…,” or “Yes.” and then there’s a delay. That delay is something that gives me a little bit more time to think about whatever my lie might be. “Did you go to work yesterday?” Or, “Did you take out the trash yesterday?” “Yes…” and then there could be a pause, and then it could continue, but that pause will be less than a second most of the time.
Now, the other scenario of- this is something that happens probably on a daily basis that you can point out now that you’re going to be made aware of it. Once you start thinking about it you might see it all the time. Whether you’re watching TV, or movies, or in everyday interaction wherever you go is a typical response where someone asks a question such as, “Did you like the movie last night?” and the response might be “yes…” and it’s kind of drawn out. So, then automatically the questioner knows there’s something coming after that. There’s a ‘but.’ So, usually what happens is when that response is given “yes…” or “no…” then the other person who asked the question says, “But what?” because they automatically know that something’s coming after that.
Now, that is typically a more truthful side of this, but it still could be deception. They still could delay that ‘yes’ or ‘no’ in order to give them a little bit more time to think because they, the liar, automatically knows that by delaying that word or stretching it out, that the person asking the question is going to automatically assume that there’s an explanation. So, if I say “No…” and then the person who asked the question -I would just wait for them to say, “But what?” and then I could continue. That gave me even more time to think about my response.
So, if somebody is aware of this, and they could use that as a part of their lie, then it could fool the questioner into believing that it was truth because they solicited the response. So, that could be a reverse manipulation tactic on their behalf which is something that you need to watch out for. So, anytime there is a delayed response of ‘yes’ or ‘no,’ whether it’s a quick answer of ‘yes,’ or a quick answer of ‘no,’ and then a pause and then an explanation, or if they stretch out the yes-or-no answer and then the explanation comes after with a however or a but, then there is sign for potential deception and you need to be aware of that.
You need to watch out for other signs because there will always be more than one sign. That battle between the conscious and the unconscious is never-ending and they are fighting head-to-head. So, if you miss it, or if you maybe had some reverse manipulation and you got manipulated, don’t worry because there will be more than one sign.
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