Deception Tips Video 16 – Symmetrical Gestures

Hey guys, my name is Spencer Coffman. Thank you for watching the Deception Tips videos, they’re all about teaching you how to read people and detect deception so that you will know if someone is lying to you.

Today we are going to continue on a long-term pattern that we’ve hit up several times before and we’re going to continue it throughout all of these videos. It’s something called symmetricality. They need to be uniform. Gestures, expressions, speech, and gestures all need to be happening congruently, symmetrically, and in unison. We’ve talked about facial expressions being symmetrical on both sides of the face, we’ve talked about gestures and speech matching up and being symmetrical, and we’ve talked about patterns and other things happening congruently and simultaneously with each other.

Today we are going to talk about gestures being symmetrical, which means on both sides of the body. So you’ll notice in a lot of these videos I have been using my hands as a part of my speech. When I talk, my hands move with my voice, and they happen together. Often times, both hands move together. It’s never I move this hand and this hand like this unless I say one then the other. But in that circumstance, it’s happening one then the other with my speech.

So they’re congruent and simultaneous in that respect, even though the hands move not with each other. Today, we’re going to focus only on the body aspect, and it’s going to be how both sides of the body must happen at the same time. Both movements on both sides need to happen symmetrically.

So here it is, Deception Tip 16: “Beware of asymmetrical gestures, as truthful expressions are symmetrical. Shoulder shrugs more prominent on one side may be indicative of deception.”

Now, this is very important. I said shoulder shrugs are in there. Typically, shrugging of the shoulders is something that happens on both sides, and it’s usually like a gesture that comes about when someone doesn’t know something when they are trying to convey innocence or ignorance or stupidity or something like that. They may say, “I don’t know,” and both of the shoulders go up.

However, you’ll see it, and sometimes you can, you can see this on TV a lot, and in addition, if you interact with teenagers or kids on a regular basis, you’ll see it in their body language quite often. Or if you’re interacting with suits, business people, you may see it there because it’s usually a one-sided shoulder-shrug. Kind of like, “well, I would do that, but something else came up,” or something like that. Or they say, “yeah, this is great,” and one shoulder goes up, not the other. It’s one or the other. It’s asymmetrical.

That typically means that they are being deceptive. Either they have no idea what’s really going on, or they have some kind of hidden idea what’s going on. Usually, it may mean something like they have no confidence in what they’re saying. It’s kind of like a halfway, halfway committed type of a thing. Usually, if someone is into something, they’re going to be, as we’ve talked about in prior videos, they’re going to be leaning in, they’re going to be forward, they’re going to be engaged. Whereas if there’s a one-sided shoulder shrug, that’s kind of like, well, take it or leave it. I’m half in, I’m half out.

Typically, also this will be seen with… you may see like one hand if it’s usually down by the waist, where they make kind of turn one hand up and one palm goes up and not the other, kind of like a whatever type of a deal, that’s a one-sided gesture. It’s on half of the body. Now, based on our right brain left brain stuff that we’ve talked about before, this would typically happen on one side of the body more than the other, but it’s not always going to be the case.

The reason is because different people may be right brain or left brain dominant, however, usually the right brain is more in false emotion, so it would typically happen on the left side of the face, but again, depending on the dominance, or whether someone is right-handed or left-handed, or whether they are more spacious, or spacial intelligence compared to linguistic intelligence, that that could all be a little bit changing, which is why it is essential to look for patterns and clusters of behavior.

Because if you see asymmetrical gestures, where they happen on one side of the body, then typically you’re going to see that their speech did not match that gesture, So that will be incongruent and asymmetrical as well. You may also see some asymmetrical facial expressions. In addition, you may see noncongruent behaviors happening with that in addition to all of those other signs. So, asymmetricallity is something to watch out for in multiple areas.

Watch for it on the face, the body, speech, speech with the body, face with the body, etc., because it will happen all over. In addition to many other signs of deception that will happen as well. All the other ones that we’ve talked about, different patterns, and different clusters of behavior. There will always be more than one sign as long as they are continuing to lie.

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