Deception Tips Video 26 – Accusing Liars
Hey guys, my name is Spencer Coffman, thank you for watching the deception tips videos. They’re all about teaching you how to read people and detect deception so that you will be able to tell if someone is lying to you.
Today, we are going to talk about a cool tactic that you can use to determine whether or not someone is telling a lie. What you can do is suggest things to them, you can give them different ideas or different things that maybe they might want to use or that they might get afraid of in order to get them to reveal the truth or to admit to something.
So, this is deception tip number 26, often times, accusing a liar of a more serious crime may entice them to admit to or agree with the accusation of a lesser crime. So, this is a good strategy that you can use when you’re trying to figure out if somebody did something or if somebody didn’t do something. Typically, it would be if someone did something because if you use this when they didn’t do something, it takes more of a place of a threat.
If you’re talking to your kids and they say, well, I can’t find my shoes and you say, okay, well if I find them then you’re going to get in trouble because you know that they didn’t look very hard. Then they go back, and they find them, that’s more like a threat because they didn’t do something. However, if they did do something and you’re trying to find out whether they did it, like did you leave the water on or did you leave the light on and they say no, well then you could start suggesting something like this with a more serious consequence.
Well, you left the light on and now the bulb burnt out, so you need to pay $1 out of your allowance. For a little kid that could be something serious and they might say, okay I know I left the light on, but it’s not burnt out yet and you kind of suggested something. So, you’re incorporating a little bit of deception as well by suggesting a higher consequence or something with a higher consequence to get them to admit to or agree with the charges brought against them on a lesser crime.
So, now this could really work in law enforcement situations where maybe someone broke into a house and they were the last person to see someone alive. You probably see this on TV all the time where they may accuse him, they say, well, we have your prints at the scene or we know you were there we have a witness that saw you there and we’re going to pin the murder on you. And the person is like, now wait a minute, okay fine, I was there but I just stopped by for a little bit and they were alive when I left him.
Two minutes ago, they were saying no they weren’t there. Well, now they’re agreeing with the lesser crime because they don’t want to get murder pinned on them. They’ll admit to or agree with the lesser crime to avoid something of a greater crime. The people interrogating him may know very well that they didn’t murder him, they may say, this guy doesn’t have the brains to do it or this person wasn’t there, or they have some other evidence that indicates it in a different direction. But they’re using that tactic to get that person to admit to being there so at least they have a timeline that’s narrowed down.
So, this works very well not only in law enforcement situations but also in situations as I’ve said before with children and with other people as well. You can suggest different outcomes, different consequences, different things that are more significant or have more or greater consequence than what they are trying to figure out at a first level. Oftentimes, the liar will get scared and they will admit to or agree with what you are first suggesting.
So, really what happens is they’re telling a lie then you’re getting them to admit to something. So, first they’re saying no, it wasn’t me, I didn’t do it, nothing happened then you’re saying yes, it was you. Then you say, fine, okay, maybe it wasn’t but maybe you did this as well, so the third level. And they say, no, no wait a minute, I’ll change my lie I’ll agree with what you’re accusing me of, but I didn’t do this.
So, now they’re contradicting their first story, thus proving that they were a liar and they’re agreeing to what you said in the first place but because the stakes have changed and now the threat is greater, they are agreeing with something lesser. In addition to this strategy, you can use other strategies that we’ve talked about in other videos and you can also look for signs of deception on their body and face and in their speech as well because there will always be more than one sign.
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