Deception Tips Video 50 – Towards The Exit
Hey guys, my name is Spencer Coffman, thank you for watching the deception tips videos they’re all about teaching you how to read people and detect deception so that you will be able to tell if someone is lying to you. Today we are talking about a sign of deception or a behavior that you will see either in one part of the body or another as in two halves of the body or you may even see it on the full body altogether.
It’s something that can happen when someone is standing or when they’re sitting, you’re going to see this when the liar is starting to feel a little bit like they are being caught in their lie. Like the tables are about to turn against them or the shoe is on the other foot or whatever other table-turning pun or situation you want to throw in there. This is happening when things are not going to go so well for the person who’s telling a lie.
The target is about to figure it out, they’re becoming wise and they are about to accuse the liar of that lie or catch them in the lie, so that liar is going to be caught. So, here it is, this is deception tip number 50. Occasionally, a liar may point him or herself towards the exit as if they are planning to escape from the situation. So, they’re going to point towards the exit, this is important, you may see this in, as I said, two areas of the body.
Their torso may be pointed towards the exit like if the exit is over here and the person, I’m speaking with is right here. I may be like, oh my gosh, I’m going to be caught in the lie so I’m no longer facing that person I’m going to square up my shoulders to that exit, but my head will still be turned towards the conversation or towards the person.
This is something that is subtle, you’ll see it with where people are facing typically when you’re in conversation with someone your shoulders are squared up to them. You’re facing them, you’re in a square, you’re in a box, it’s like if you see two people talking and they’re standing almost toe-to-toe or squared then it’s their conversation. If you see them and they’re talking and they’re open then a third person could come in and join that conversation, it’s the body language of openness.
So, if you see this and someone is talking and then all of a sudden, their shoulders are pointed away, they may be thinking, okay, I’m tired of this conversation, it’s time for me to leave. In addition, the other area of the body you may see this on is the legs, so someone’s hips or legs, like their knees, they could also be squared up with someone typically in conversation.
Their toes are lined up with their shoulders so their whole body would be squared up with whatever they’re doing, whatever they’re interested in, they’re talking to, they’re watching, etc. In this instance, you may see their legs, or their hips pointed away or they have one foot, one toe angled out toward the exit like they’re going to go. They may be shifting their weight like this, like alright 1, 2, 3, BAM, I’m out of here, they’re wanting to leave yet their shoulders are still squared up with the conversation.
If you see them entirely turned, their legs are that way, their shoulders are that way, they want to go, they’re out of there. So, that’s what you can watch for when this is occurring, the shoulders, the legs or knees, hips type of behavior area or their entire body. Again, this can happen whether they’re standing or if they’re seated.
If they’re sitting down then you may see, like if they’re in a swivel chair or something, they may be at the table, squared up with the table but the swivel chair may be turned so that they’re kind of going away. So, you can see this in standing liars or seated liars, it’s all in where their body is pointing, where they are framed up and wanting to go. If they’re going towards the exit, then chances are they want to escape or flee that situation.
Whether they’re just bored with the conversation and they want to get out of there or they’re lying and they’re about to be caught, that is up to you to determine from the context of the situation and what else is happening around there. If you see that they’re in a heated argument or a debate or they’re being questioned or challenged then you know that man, they just want to get out of that situation because they’re about to be caught.
If you see that someone is just talking on and on and on and this person is standing there, they’re looking at their watch. Maybe they’re looking up, they’re looking down, now they’re facing the exit, you’re like well, that person just needs to be rescued, they want to get out of that situation. There are different circumstances that you will see, and you need to know the context of the situation before you can make that judgment on whether or not that person is telling the truth.
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