Deception Tips Video 6 – Covering Genitals
Hey guys, my name is Spencer Coffman. Thank you for watching the Deception Tips Videos. They’re all about teaching you how to read people and detect deception so that you will know when someone is lying to you.
Today, we are going to talk about a pretty cool sign of deception. It happens all the time, like a lot of these signs, but this one is pretty telltale because it’s an unnatural sign that you don’t really see too often and it has to do with covering up and blocking so that people cannot see through you, or see your vulnerability, and it is a sign of deception that is indicated by someone feeling strong vulnerability or, like someone can see through them, or read their mind, etc.
So here it is. Deception tip number 6: When a liar is questioned, vulnerability may be shown by unconsciously covering the genital area. Either with folded hands or an object.
So this is pretty important because it, it’s something that happens unconsciously. People often unconsciously place things between themselves and other people. So for this sign, it’s kind of out there a little, bit it’s a little weird because humans are already wearing clothing, so we really don’t have any reason to feel exposed or vulnerable or anything like that because we, we’re dressed. And so when someone questions us, to further cover up is something that doesn’t really make sense, but it’s done because they feel like they are exposed and they are vulnerable.
And this is something that happens in their mind, so it’s not something that just happens when someone is lying, it’s not a behavior that comes out as a result of a lie, it’s something that happens once you press a lie.
So this is a sign that is more of a confirmation sign. Once you start to see the other signs, like for example, if they fold their arms, or if they lean a certain way, or if their pupils move, or anything like that. If you start to see a different cluster, or a pattern of behavior, and then you start to question them, and now all of a sudden they start to cover private areas of their body or genital regions or anything like that to try to block more of your perception, then that’s more of a confirming thing that let’s you know that they really are lying.
It’s like, “okay, wait a minute, I saw this cluster of behaviors and I think they could be lying, so let’s press them a little bit.” And then boom, you see another cue that happens, now you can know that they’re lying for sure.
Now, this can happen in any form or any variety. Sometimes like for women, they kind of can clutch like a notebook or a binder, and go like this. Or for men, maybe they set it in their lap, or they have a newspaper. Or a lot of times you’ll see like people, and this is, uh, typically like you’ll see security, or bouncers, or any type of people who are supposed to look like they’re professional and authoritative, with command presence, and things like that.
You’ll see them stand with one hand inside the other, kind of like this. But it’ll be this direction, and they kind of fold them over their waist. That is a very vulnerable gesture.
Typically, if someone is in security or they’re having a confident pose, they would put their hands behind their back, and you can see what that does to my chest and my shoulders. It draws them back, it already looks like I’m standing up a lot straighter, I’m more confident.
Whereas, if I put them in front of me, you can see I’m kind of hunched. I’m slouched over. I’m a little bit timid and afraid, if you will. So that is something that when a liar is questioned, they will tend to cover different areas of their body, and they don’t need to, because they already have clothing on, or they may already be sitting behind a desk, or something.
And so what would be the purpose for them to put something else in front? It’s a security gesture, it’s a comfort gesture that they do when feeling vulnerable. It is another way for the unconscious to leak a sign that tells other people, if they’re paying attention, that the conscious, or that that person is being deceptive.
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