Deception Tips Video 62 – Statements Twice
Hey guys, my name is Spencer Coffman, thank you for watching the deception tips videos, they’re all about teaching you how to read people and detect deception so that you will be able to tell if someone is lying to you. Today, we’ve got a tip that we haven’t really talked about before, this is something that you are going to do, learn and understand so that you will know when people are starting to get on a path of lying or when they start to not believe what they say.
They need a little extra convincing or they really want to drive home a point or want to drive home a point. There’s a little tip because I said that twice, so I repeated what I said, why? Well, I was pushing something there, I was driving a point home. The point wasn’t really a point it was just an example but in the truthful circumstance that was the example that would be given, people repeat what they said to give the point a take-home point or the take-home message.
When people lie, they’re going to do that same thing but they’re going to push their story or certain parts of their story again, so it’s repeating what they’ve already said. So, here it is, this is deception tip number 62. Some liars often say their statements twice with their voice rising the second time around. So, there are two parts to this, they say the statements twice, so they’re saying it twice for a couple of reasons.
Number one, remember that battle between the conscious and the unconscious, the conscious wants that lie to go out, it’s saving themselves, it’s covering up something, it’s avoiding the consequence. The unconscious wants the truth to be found, wants it to be discovered and told and it’s very truthful, what happens here is there’s that battle going on.
When someone is telling a lie, they not only need to convince the other people of the lie, but they also need to convince themselves and saying this statement twice helps do that. It will get them to repeat what they’ve said so they are now going to convince themselves a little bit more than that lie is true to hopefully make it okay for them to continue telling that lie.
Hopefully okay, not really because no one should be lying all the time but that’s their intention when doing it twice, it’s the easing of their conscious mind in that, they’re saying it twice to convince themselves and other people. In addition, their voice could rise the second time around, why would it do that? Well, it rises because they know it’s not true, that’s the unconscious pushing in and saying no, you know it’s not true so it’s going to rise.
What does that sound like? When someone’s voice rises at the end of a sentence, we normally hear that in what type of sentences? Okay, I just did it right there and I asked you a question, therefore that is your answer. Usually, when the voice rises at the end of a sentence it’s a question, so that is the unconscious pushing it in.
If someone is making a statement twice and the voice is rising the second time around, they’re questioning, that means they don’t really believe what they’re saying. They are not a hundred percent committed to what is being said, to what is coming out of their mouth, it’s a lie. It’s not always a lie, remember there can be circumstances where they’re trying to drive home the point and they repeat it.
You hear this a lot in Universities, lectures, public speakers, sermons, things like that where people, they repeat the last part of their sentence to drive home the point. Usually, there’s a pause between there, so they would say it then they’d pause and then they repeat it, there’s that pause. Also, they usually say it slower, so if I’m going to drive home a point, I would say it slower, if I’m going to drive home a point.
So, that’s how you’d hear it, that’s the more truthful variation, so when you hear that kind of stuff think to yourself is this person trying to get a message across or are they saying it to convince themselves and other people of this story or this lie. How do you know? Well, are they saying it in that staccato fashion to drive the point home or are they speaking it normally?
Is their voice rising? What are some other factors that were going on? Can you notice any other signs, patterns, clusters? So, pay attention to the whole works and use your discernment to judge the entire situation not only one specific behavior.
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