Deception Tips Video 63 – Chimpanzee Lips
Hey guys, my name is Spencer Coffman, thank you for watching the deception tips videos, they’re all about teaching you how to read people and detect deception so that you will be able to tell if someone is lying to you. Today, we’re talking about a sign of deception this is specifically on an area of the face. Obviously, the face is one of the most predominant areas in deception, why? It is because usually when people talk, they are lying, usually lies our verbal.
You know that joke, how do you know someone’s lying, insert whatever, politician, man, woman right in there. How do you know when so-and-so is lying? Their lips are moving. You all know that joke, it’s pretty popular, it goes right down to it that when people talk they lie, yes they do, not all the time but most of the lies we tell our verbal lies, so this tip is related to the face and mouth, specifically the lips.
There are a lot of different things that can happen with our lips when we lie. Today we’re going to talk about specifically a pacification or a stress and tension relieving gesture that happens on the lips. It’s a very funny look when you see it on people’s lips and you’ll wonder what’s going on but that’s what this is, it’s stress relief, pacification and it could be affiliated with deception.
So, here it is, this is deception tip number 63. Liars may sometimes breathe in through the nose and out through extended lips like those of a chimpanzee. So, it’s in through the nose, it’s a breath in and it’s like a deep breath whereas instead of just taking a normal deep breath it’s more of in through the nose and then out through extended lips.
It looks funny, their cheeks may also be puffed up a little bit in some circumstances but it’s not always because that’s different, that’s a different type of a pacification gesture. This one is more of stress-relieving, a tension, it’s a big, deep breath in and out through those extended lips, why? Well, it is because when people tell a lie there is that huge amount of stress and tension that is going on because that battle between the conscious and the unconscious is happening.
That battle is causing that internal conflict, the conscious wants that lie, the unconscious wants the truth. Due to all of this inner turmoil and conflict, they’re thinking about getting caught, they’re thinking about remembering the lie, convincing other people, and convincing themselves. All of that stuff is boiling inside of them, they need some relief.
As we mentioned, their lips do take on a variety of different crazy features or shapes, they do all kinds of stuff when people are lying. This is one where it’s like that but it’s also a breathing gesture because they’re taking that deep breath and they’re exhaling to try to calm their nerves and become a little bit less tense and stressed.
In doing so, they are using this chimpanzee lip-type look to push that air out more slowly so that it’s a longer breath. When you see this, you need to think of a couple of different things, so first off, they could be lying, second off, it’s just a stress relief gesture.
So, when you’re looking, remember any time you’re going to pinpoint some kind of lying behavior or language, you need to be on the lookout for patterns and clusters of behavior. You need to look over here, you need to look over there and everywhere else that you can. You’ve got to look around and see the whole situation in the context of everything before you jump to that conclusion.
There could also be some kind of a stress-relieving gesture, lots of people are stressed for a lot of different reasons and it could be for any number of them. Keep that in mind that if you see this, someone’s taking a deep breath maybe they just need some relaxation, never jump to any conclusions without looking for other signs.
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