Deception Tips Video 66 – Deep Breath
Hey guys, my name is Spencer Coffman, thank you for watching the deception tips videos, they’re all about teaching you how to read people and detect deception so that you will be able to tell if someone is lying to you. Today, we are going to talk about another sign that liars may display this could also be a sign of relief or pacification to release that stress and that tension that’s involved in telling a lie.
As you know, there’s that huge battle between the conscious and the unconscious, they’re fighting head-to-head, one wants the truth, one wants a lie, that’s creating all this internal stress and tension that’s going to blow up inside of someone. When they have this behavior, it’s more of a relief and relaxation to pacify away all that stress in tension and this one is about breathing.
So, here it is, this is deception tip number 66. Breathing regularly and periodically taking a deep breath followed by a long, slow exhale is done to pacify liars. We’ve talked about this before, something similar in Deception Tip number 54, which was Breathing Rapidly. How liars may breathe rapidly and then a long, slow exhale at the end to pacify or get rid of that stress or tension, it’s almost a hyperventilating then a sigh of relief.
This one is one step further than that, it doesn’t have that hyperventilation and that stress and tension. This is more of they are involved in the lie, they’re telling the lie, maybe they’ve just told the lie, the lie is about to be over. They’re starting to feel like they may be believed or maybe they’ve been caught and now they have this relief where they are now satisfied that they didn’t have to continue going through with it or that it’s over.
So, they take that deep breath and then a long, slow exhale to release that stress and tension, almost like they’re blowing out that steam. It’s a meditative breath, it’s a meditation gesture, it’s a breathing exercise that’s done to calm the mind and the spirit inside of them that’s boiling up with all of this tension and anxiety.
So, pay attention to this because it is something that you’re going to see, you’re going to see a lot of breathing, different actions, different things where people are taking deep breaths, they’re taking shallow breaths. They may be breathing really rapidly, they may be even what we talked about with taking a breath in through the nose and out through extended lips like the chimpanzee.
We’ve talked about that before in another deception tip where people can use that as more of a pacification gesture. Pacification gestures are very popular because people want to relieve that stress and that tension that’s involved in telling a lie. Nobody likes to be stressed all the time and if people are stressed all the time then there is a very good case that they actually might like to be stressed.
They might like that feeling of being stressed, it makes them feel important or something but when people are lying, they definitely don’t want to feel stressed. When they’re lying, they want to feel calm so that they can deliver that lie and that it will be more believable. When they are stressed or when they feel like they’re getting caught in this lie you’re going to start to see a lot more of these breathing gestures or these pacification gestures, these deep breaths, these meditative breaths.
So, when you see them, pay attention to them and think about okay, what’s going on? Is this person stressed? Yes, they are. Then think why are they stressed, are they stressed because they’re telling a lie or are they stressed because something else is going on? Two seconds ago, you just witnessed that their boss was screaming at them now they’re taking a deep breath out in the hallway.
Well, that’s a pretty legitimate reason why they may be stressed. Pay attention to the surrounding environment and the context of the situation to determine why they may be exhibiting that pacification gesture. What is the cause? Don’t find a symptom to treat it, find the cause and what’s going on and then use that to determine whether or not there is deception happening in that instance.
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