Deception Tips Video 82 – Starting Sentences

Hey guys, my name is Spencer Coffman, thank you for watching the Deception Tips videos. They’re all about teaching you how to read people and detect deception so that you will be able to tell if someone is lying to you. Today, we are going to talk about a tactic that you can use that will help to get the liar to talk, to continue talking. 

To feel a little bit more at ease with the situation so that they will be more apt to tell you this story and to either trip up or contradict themselves or whatever needs to happen for you to get at the truth. That’s what we’re talking about today, it is an important tip. So, here we go, this is Deception Tip number 82. Get a liar to talk by starting sentences with the word “you” and ending them with suggestions or questions.

There are a couple of things to this tip, you want the liar to talk. Oftentimes, people who are lying have a story to tell, so they’re going to talk anyway. If you’re in a situation where you need to get some form of information from them, you need to get them to talk. What they’re going to tell you may be false, so you need to know whether or not it’s going to be true and you need to just keep them talking and get them going.

Sometimes liars, they’re eager to get that lie out so they’re going to come in there, they’re going to start talking and bam, you can hardly get them to stop but this is for the times that you need to get them talking. So, what you’re going to do is you want to start sentences with words that incorporate them to reply to something, so start them with the word “you” and them finish them with stuff that gets them talking.

For example, if I say you were at such-and-such place last night, right? You’re accusing them of being there but not directly. I’m not saying well, I know you were there last night, you’re saying you were there last night, right and then you’re ending it in a question, that that’s going to get them to talk and reply. It’s going to do one of two things, if you’re right and they were there, they’re either going to deny it and lie or they’re going to say yes and then you just need to keep going.

If you’re wrong and they weren’t there, they’re going to tell you because they don’t want to be associated with something they didn’t do. So, they’re going to be like, no, I wasn’t and that’s going to get them talking and then you can say, well, where were you and keep them going down that path. Use this tactic to get them to talk, remember you want liars to talk.

We’ve talked about this before in a few different episodes with Staying Silent, Becoming Silent, and allowing them to speak, listening to the entire story. We’ve spoken about this before, so if you can get them to talk and start them talking, that’s going to be very important because having them speak is half the battle. If they’re already talking, you’re halfway there because when a liar is speaking, they are trying to convince you of that lie. 

They’re trying to convince themselves of that lie and they’re also trying to convince themselves that you believe the lie. They’re also stressed about the lie, they’re stressed about the consequence of the lie, they’re stressed about the consequence of the actions of whatever was being lied about and they’re stressed about the consequence of lying.

They’ve got all this stuff going on but if you can just get them talking, they’re probably going to continue because it’s almost like they just need that release. So, get them talking, start things off with sentences that will keep them going because if you can get them going that is going to be hugely important and it’s going to help you out a lot more than you think.

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